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Process: What new story will mine joy from your imperfect life?
Crush your stories into pieces and build something new from them.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Workshop: What stories did you tell in order to survive?
Which old narratives still serve you, and which are holding you back?
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I'm Pretty Sure My Writing is Pure Trash!'
Learning to write means learning to love your garbage with all of your heart.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Speak Up.
Avoiding conflict at all costs is common today, and it's unhealthy.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I Like Birbs!'
This parable has a moral.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'Should I Follow My Much-Older Boyfriend to a State Where I Don't Want to Live?'
Sometimes the age gap isn't all it's cracked up to be.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Embracing Totality
How to stop worrying and say yes to whatever comes next.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'My Boyfriend Dumped Me After I Got Out of the Hospital with Long Covid!'
You don't need dismissive resolutions. You just need to open your heart wider and trust yourself more.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I'm Afraid to Write About Myself!'
Daring to tell your own story is a revolutionary act.
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Heather Havrilesky
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March 2024

'Was It Even Real?'
Making an expressive, sensitive man your best friend can be an exercise in disappointment.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Love Doesn't Evaporate
Don't protect yourself from loss, pain, regret, and hope.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Tolerating Unknowns Will Make You Stronger
Learning not to flail and fight and flee in the face of big questions opens your heart, mind, and body to a more deeply connected, satisfying existence.
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Heather Havrilesky
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