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'Where is Romeo?'
Stop chasing imaginary love and focus on what's real.
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How to Stop Being Obsessed
Find something bigger to focus on.
Heather Havrilesky
Feb 10
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My Boyfriend Is Smothering Me. Am I Just Spoiled?
Your negative storytelling is blocking your path to happiness.
Heather Havrilesky
Jan 27
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Don't Let Anyone Tell You How to Feel
Maison Pour Érotomane (1932) by Salvador Dali There isn’t one appropriate emotional reaction to anything under the sun. The day we buried my fat…
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Jan 20
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Make New Friends in 2021
Eagle Head, Manchester, Massachusetts (1870) by Winslow Homer Maybe this should be your only resolution. You don’t have to make a ton of friends…
Heather Havrilesky
Jan 6
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'I'm in Love with the Wrong Person'
It's time to live in reality again.
Heather Havrilesky
Dec 30, 2020
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'I'm Isolated and Heartbroken'
Feeling your truest desires can be soothing when you subtract the shame.
Heather Havrilesky
Dec 23, 2020
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Protective Skepticism Makes You Numb
Digging for your desires makes joy possible.
Heather Havrilesky
Dec 9, 2020
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