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Are You Overly Critical?Surimpression Madonne (1936) by Francis Picabia Great, let’s talk some shit! Wait, you’re saying you see flaws and mistakes everywhere and it so…
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It's hard to let love in when you're a perfectionist.
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Oct 28 1
Do You Have a Nemesis?Portrait of Picasso (1947) by Salvador Dali In this week’s Ask Polly, the letter writer asks, “Why am I so fascinated by other people but I can’…
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Learning to Protect & Nurture YourselfWarm Afternoon (1978) by Winslow Homer The idea of self-care attracts so much scorn online. Our culture reflexively insults anything that sounds…
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Oct 14 97
Friendship & BoundariesCousins (1966) by Bridget Bate Tichenor I used to believe that being a good friend meant saying yes to everything. I would stay on the phone for…
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Oct 7 84
Don't buy into the myth that misery is more noble than joy.
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Sep 30 7
Do not go gentle into that good light.
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Sep 28 3
Are You a Shame Sponge?La Gardienne des Phénix (1954) by Leonor Fini Thanks to this week’s column, I’m a little fixated on shame today: how women soak up all of the am…
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