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Understanding your own values, needs, desires, and boundaries is sometimes more important than analyzing someone else's intentions.
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When you're used to being capable and suddenly you feel vulnerable, you have to give yourself time and space to adjust to your new life of caring way…
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Recognizing the limits of persuasion.
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Can't we create more good men - and good people in general - by speaking them into existence?
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Think about the kinds of connection you're craving, and ask yourself if performative storytelling really gets you there.
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Real intimacy isn't simple or easy.
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Refusing to apply hierarchical value systems to different lifestyles is the first step.
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You don't have to bathe in misery or even read the paper. But you can't give up.
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Feeling confident requires an audit of your language around growing older.
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You won't cultivate deep connections until you learn to make your tender, fearful core self feel loved and safe.
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How can you be more consistently engaged and supportive when it comes to the people, places, and things you love the most?
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It's time to leave this ghost behind and focus on what's real instead.
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