What is Ask Polly?

I’m Heather Havrilesky and I created the Ask Polly advice column for The Awl in 2012, where it became one of the site’s most popular features. In 2014, Ask Polly moved to New York magazine’s The Cut. My book How to Be a Person in the World, a collection of new Ask Polly columns, was published by Doubleday in 2016.

In April of 2021, Ask Polly moved to Substack where it publishes twice a week for subscribers only. Along with advice columns on subjects like how to embrace your secret creative dreams, how to make a lifelong commitment, and how to navigate difficult friendships, I also write essays like How to Be Exuberant and How to Handle Regrets and You Are Already Whole.

I love writing this column!

I also publish a newsletter called Ask Molly (written by Polly’s evil twin) and I’m the author of four books, the latest of which, Foreverland: On The Divine Tedium of Marriage (Ecco, 2022) was named one of the Best Books of 2022 (So Far) by the Chicago Tribune and has received many rave reviews. (You can buy it here.) My published work has appeared all over the place and includes humor (The New Yorker), essays (New York Times Magazine), and criticism (Bookforum). I started my career writing cartoons for the late, great early-web experiment Suck.com.

When you subscribe to Ask Polly, you get two new columns a week, you can comment on any column or discussion thread, and you can read everything in the archives. Thank you sincerely for your encouragement and support!

Send your advice letters to askpolly @ protonmail.com.


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Heather Havrilesky 
Advice columnist, cultural critic, author of the memoir Foreverland (Ecco, 2/8/22) +three other books.