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'Should I Follow My Much-Older Boyfriend to a State Where I Don't Want to Live?'
Sometimes the age gap isn't all it's cracked up to be.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Embracing Totality
How to stop worrying and say yes to whatever comes next.
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Heather Havrilesky
29
'My Boyfriend Dumped Me After I Got Out of the Hospital with Long Covid!'
You don't need dismissive resolutions. You just need to open your heart wider and trust yourself more.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'I'm Afraid to Write About Myself!'
Daring to tell your own story is a revolutionary act.
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Heather Havrilesky
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'Was It Even Real?'
Making an expressive, sensitive man your best friend can be an exercise in disappointment.
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Heather Havrilesky
38
Love Doesn't Evaporate
Don't protect yourself from loss, pain, regret, and hope.
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Heather Havrilesky
19
Tolerating Unknowns Will Make You Stronger
Learning not to flail and fight and flee in the face of big questions opens your heart, mind, and body to a more deeply connected, satisfying existence.
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Heather Havrilesky
31
'Should I Leave My 12-Year-Old Daughter Behind to Pursue My Dreams?'
In a word? No.
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Heather Havrilesky
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Advice and wisdom from Heather Havrilesky, published since 2012 (formerly at The Awl and NY Magazine). Paid subscribers receive twice weekly posts on how to navigate our broken world with compassion, realism, and an open heart.
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